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Quotes - November 2015

Alexei Muravsky

 
She looked ahead, at the haze that melted rail and distance, a haze that could rip apart at any moment to some shape of disaster. She wondered why she felt safer than she had ever felt in a car behind the engine, safer here, where it seemed as if, should an obstacle rise, her breast and glass shield would be first to smash against it. She smiled, grasping the answer: it was the security of being first, with full sight and full knowledge of one’s course – not the blind sense of being pulled into the unknown by some unknown power ahead. It was the greatest sensation of existence: not to trust, but to know.
— Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged

Nature has placed mankind under the governance of two sovereign masters, pain and pleasure. It is for them alone to point out what we ought to do, as well as to determine what we shall do.
— Bentham, via The Personality Puzzle 6th Edition

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
— Eleanor Roosevelt, via Abnormal Psychology 9th Edition

 
In preparing yourself for war, you must rid yourself of myths and misconceptions. Strategy is not a question of learning a series of moves or ideas to follow like a recipe; victory has no magic formula. Ideas are merely nutrients for the soil: they lie in your brain as possibilities, so that in the heat of the moment they can inspire a direction, an appropriate and creative response. Let go of all fetishes – books, techniques, formulas, flashy weapons – and learn to become your own strategist.
— Robert Greene, The 33 Strategies of War

 
Most people understand the folly of the parent who says, “Do as I say, not as I do!” Learning is most likely to be accomplished when there is consistency between the instructional message and the behaviour of the person providing the message. You will be most effective as a helping person if you provide a positive role model and thereby make it possible that you will become a significant person, a mentor, in the lives of other students.
— Fred B. Newton & Steven C. Ender, Students Helping Students: A Guide for Peer Educators on College Campuses

Neither a man nor a crowd nor a nation can be trusted to act humanely or to think sanely under the influence of a great fear.
— Bertrand Russell, via Abnormal Psychology 9th Edition

 
 
Cohesive groups can, however, be emotionally demanding (Forsyth & Elliot, 1999). The old sergeant syndrome, for example, is more common in cohesive military squads. Although the cohesiveness of the unit initially provides psychological support for the individual, the loss of comrades during battle causes severe distress. When the unit is reinforced with replacements, the original group members are reluctant to establish emotional ties with the newcomers, partly in fear of the pain produced by separation. Hence they begin restricting their interactions, and these “old sergeants” can eventually become completely isolated within the group (Sobel, 1947).
— Dr. Donelson R. Forsyth, Group Dynamics 6th Edition

What is hate? I am attributing something to you, something that you’re violating my model of the world with. That’s a complete victim mentality. See nobody can do anything to you emotionally without your permission but most people don’t see that. The very last level of control that we have short of moving our arms and legs is our ability to give meanings to things and choose our reaction. And if for some people a divorce is traumatic, for others they reframe it into freedom. But if I’m hating you what’s really going on? I don’t forgive you. I don’t sense the fact that the experience we had was a dark square that has helped me shape my personality moving forward. And therefore if I continue to hate you and not forgive you, it’s the old adage… not forgiving someone is like drinking poison and waiting for them to die. It’s fruitless, get over it. If your getting some level of hit from the victim mode because it gives you some sense of purpose to hate somebody, fine, but let it go cause guess what – they don’t give a damn.
— Peter Sage, London Real (Dealing With Negative Emotions)

 
 
 
Between 55 and 85 percent of clients with obsessive-compulsive disorder have been found to improve considerably with exposure and response prevention, improvements that often continue indefinitely (Abramowitz et al., 2011, 2008; McKay, Taylor, & Abramowitz, 2010). The effectiveness of this approach suggests that people with this disorder are like the superstitious man in the old joke who keeps snapping his finders to keep elephants away. When someone points out, “But there aren’t any elephants around here,” the man replies, “See? It works!” One review concludes, “With hindsight, it is possible to that the obsessive –compulsive individual has been snapping his fingers, and unless he stops (response prevention), and takes a look around at the same time (exposure), he isn’t going to learn much about the value of elephants” (Berk & Efran, 1983, p. 546).
— Dr. Ronald J. Comer, Abnormal Psychology 9th Edition

 
A number of morals can be derived from these stories, perhaps, the moral that neither psychologists nor their students are to be trusted. A deeper moral is that people may do things for very simple reasons of which they may be unaware. They even make up elaborate rationales for their actions that have little of nothing to do with the real causes.
— Dr. David C. Funder, The Personality Puzzle 6th Edition

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